Oh, Grow Up!

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” –ee cummings

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The best and hardest advice i’ve received in my life is this:  Just be yourself!

As my birthday approaches (eek!), I find myself reflecting on who I am today.

In my twenties, I was all over the place, dyeing my hair a different color every week and constantly wondering what everyone thought of me.  In my thirties, I was figuring out how to be a mom and an “adult” with a real job and responsibilities, too sleep deprived to wonder what anyone thought of me.

Now, in my forties, I’ve given up wondering what anyone thinks, and I’ve learned to focus on what I think is important.  Now, I’m old enough to consider all the times “two roads diverged in a wood,” and appreciate where my choices led me.  I’ve learned that there is no joy or passion without sorrow or pain.  We have to own our choices and get through it– hopefully with some grace and style and a loud ki-ai.

Does this mean I’m finally growing up and being me?  It’s about darn time.  Those birthday candles take up the whole cake these days.